Lonely in togetherness

Many people long very much for a relationship. No wonder because the search for a suitable partner is in our nature. We want to share life with a loved one. Many single people are looking for a partner to experience love and no longer be lonely. But even in many relationships, people feel lonely. Sometimes even more than single people. Instead of commonality, couples lead two separate lives.

We have nothing more to say to each other

Loneliness in a partnership can have different manifestations. Maybe a partner lives somewhere else or travels a lot. Both are often alone and have a weekend relationship. But usually there are other reasons to feel lonely in the relationship. Even if you live with your partner and share the bed. Loneliness often creeps in very slowly. Many are hardly aware of it at first. This raises the question: Do we really deal intensively with our partner when we are together every day?

Isn't it easier to end a busy day in front of the TV?
Do we spend valuable time on electronics instead of as a couple?
Are we only talking about everyday life and neglecting in-depth conversations?
Do we know what occupies, pleases, burdens and moves our partner in everyday life?
Do we do things together out of social obligations?
Do we take time for tenderness?

IIf all this is not the case, we only live next to each other. After all, we feel lonely even in the presence of our partner. They have somehow become alien to us.

Communication is the be-all and end-all in a relationship

If we feel lonely in the partnership and seem to have nothing more to say to the other, the mood turns negative. For many, this is a reason to separate. But the question is: Do you really no longer have any common topics or do both just not take time for it? The participation in the life of the partner, the honest communication with each other is the be-all and end-all of a harmonious and functioning relationship. Professional partnership counseling helps to return to consciousness and reorientation towards togetherness.

It is important for yourself to determine::

What do I like about my partner?
Do I take enough time for my partner and the design of our relationship?
Do I carry my everyday stress into the relationship?
Do I support my partner in everyday life and in crises?

Important relationship tips that you can take away from couples counseling:

Share and exchange ideas about what moves you in everyday life.
Get to know your partner properly through targeted communication.
Influence eachother.
Communicate wisely and think about how to address sensitive issues.
Listen carefully to your partner without judging and judging them.
Give each other space for time in pairs through joint activities.
Find common goals.
Make your partner happy without expecting anything in return.

Would you also like to find the key to problem-solving communication with your partner? We help you by, among other things, conveying reflection strategies at eye level. They are an indispensable key to a lasting and loving relationship.