Partnership – the eternal cycle of love
Unfortunately, there is no recipe for success for a long and happy partnership. Certainly not a formula for all couples. Because people and their living conditions are too different. In addition, love follows its own laws. That's why everyone must find their own personal path to a happy partnership. Or the right way to approach each other again and stay happy. But we all have one thing in common: we want to hold on to love and grow old together.
What is the secret of a good relationship?
Respect, esteem, appreciation, kindness, love, shared values, goals and activities. These are the ingredients for a happy relationship. But how can you control them? Each partnership works according to different criteria. And you can find those with professional supervision.
Love is simple in itself. It meets us suddenly or slowly builds up, it pulls us along and puts us in an emotional state of emergency. A partnership is different. It can be designed, both can and should like to work on it. We can hold on to love by working on the relationship in a targeted and individual way. Every partnership lasts if we invest as much in it as we do in our professional careers. But usually this is not the case. Then it is not surprising when the relationship barometer points downwards. No price without diligence - this also applies to partnerships
A cycle of frustration
Silence, disinterest, constant criticism and the need to change the other weaken a relationship. The sense of togetherness is lost. The most common mistakes in relationships are usually of a fundamental nature:
- Talk up problems instead of solving them
- Sweeping problems under the table
- Wanting to criticize and change the other
- Trying to find errors in the other
- Taking their love for granted
- No active shaping of the relationship
- Disinterest in the life and concerns of the partner
- Few joint activities
- No common goals and experiences
- No conversations about sexual needs
- Abandonment of independence
The state of emergency of emotions becomes a pure state of emergency. Answers are missing and talking does not help. More and more often the thought arises, without the other life might be easier. Divorces are now socially accepted. But many couples choose the easy way instead of solving their problems.
Targeted communication can break the vicious circle
Without communication every relationship fails. But couples counseling can help. With many tips, the cycle of frustration can be broken:
- Stay realistic and find out: What is really possible and useful?
- What moves me, you and us?
- Quality of conversations counts, not quantity
- Show active interest in each other
- Creating shared experiences and goals
- Dealing with emotions
- Find your way back to fulfilling sexuality with more affection
The cycle of frustration ends when both partners express their hurt emotions and do not turn them into anger, frustration, criticism or withdrawal. With appreciative communication, the relationship experiences positive impulses. The love for the partner grows again or is relearned. This is the essential part of a couples' consultation.
One of the central keys to a harmonious partnership lies in the functioning empathic communication. Discover with our individual couples counseling how you can communicate in your relationship in an understandable way and become a good listener. Learn to correctly classify the message of what has been said or heard. Only in this way can two people (again) "understand each other well" in the truest sense of the word.
